Do you bite your nails or pick your fingers when you’re nervous. Do you keep rolling your hair? Do you touch your face when it is not required or cough when you really don’t have a cold? Do you nod your head while speaking to people or chew your pen? Do you use fillers like “uh, like, I mean, actually, you know, ok etc??” in a sentence when it is not required.
If you have answered yes to one of the above or if you do anything similar that you probably wouldn’t do normally then you’re probably one of the millions of people who do things unconsciously. We are surrounded by numerous people who do a lot of things either consciously or unconsciously which are not required and probably even not good for our health and lifestyle.
Here are a few more examples of our daily life activities, that we do unconsciously and which can impact our life in a negative way:
Eat too fast.
Get distracted with technology.
Not get enough sleep.
Too much liquor, not enough water.
Sit for long periods.
Stare at the computer and not blink.
Too much caffeine or other stimulants.
Snack, snack, snack.
At The Gym:
Resist setting up a purposeful workout plan.
Not working out until fatigue.
Not cooling down by stretching or meditating.
Let negative self talk control our days.
Setting goals without time limits.
Lack or loss of motivation.
So what makes us do these things?
1. Nervous/Tension: This is one of the most common reasons for doing things that you don’t intend to do. I had a friend who would peel the skin near the nails of his thumb. It first started when he got tensed but later it became a habit and he did it even when he wasn’t nervous. He was doing it unconsciously to the point that his thumbs started bleeding.
2. Contagious: None of us were born with these habits. We all acquired it at some point of our life. Although it’s nice to acquire good habits from friends and colleagues but when you acquire their negative traits then it’s a problem. Most of us pick up slangs, eating habits and other lifestyle from our friends. I have been a poor eater most of life but I managed quite well with the less amount of eating. A few years back I realized that seeing me my roommates and friends were also getting that habit and they started skipping meals, eating less food and ended up falling sick. I felt terrible and tried to explain them – some took the advice while others learnt it the hard way.
3. Not being aware of yourself: Not being aware of what you are doing is one of the main reasons for this. It is always a good idea to take a moment in between your busy life to take a deep breath. Consciously make efforts to be aware of what you are doing and evaluate if your actions are necessary. I am generally a very calm and humble person until a few months back when I was very stressed at work and for some reason I couldn’t stand one of my colleagues who also happens to be a good friend of mine. We had constant conflicts at work, although outside of work we would be good friends and I feel very bad about my behavior at work once I reach home and reflect back at what I did. It was hard at first but after that day whenever my friend comes to me during work with some ideas or issues I consciously make an effort to listen to him and be calm and come up with a solution. Things got really better after that and I felt really good about it.
The point here is – there is nothing about you that you can’t control. We are responsible for our actions. So if we allowed ourselves to develop these habits then I am pretty sure we are also capable of stopping them. Look back at all the things you did today and analyze if there is something that you could have done better or if there is something that you needn’t have done. Take control of your body and don’t let it run by others. 🙂